Do you ever find something that warms your whole body in a way you can’t describe? Like, when you remember a happy memory from childhood or a song you haven’t heard in forever that you danced to once? I’m here to teach you how to find your happiest self. This is coming from someone who was rock bottom and didn’t want to be here last year.

1. Psychoanalyse your life. Who do you enjoy spending time with? What things around you make you happy? What makes your heart whole? Write them down, we’re going to focus on them going forward, we’re keeping them in your life.
2. Cutting out. You know what I’m talking about. Those people and situations that boil your blood. It’s time to put them to bed by refocussing. Do you need really need them? Do you really need to do this? No, get rid. It’s easier said than done but you are important here. Are you happy in your job? No, then, why spend so much time doing something you hate doing? Find what you love doing. Take some risks, they usually pay off if you dare to dream.
3. Try new things. Yes, it’s not easy for some but who said you have to leave the house to find things you enjoy? That’s what Pinterest is for. Mood board it. Mood board what you actually want. Experiment.
4. Stop caring what others think and stop seeking validation. This is the hardest thing ever but once you stop, you never look back. This is something I’ve done recently. Last year I was so focussed on the fact certain people who don’t matter to me, don’t like me, I was wasting so much time and shutting out the people who did. Learn to feel content in yourself, who actually cares what some rando thinks? Like seriously? If whatever is said to your face, you get your sass on and bounce it back to their court, you can guarantee they’ll zip it up real fast. They want to break you down, you have to ride past that. Don’t even cash in on the negatives, don’t engage for a second. Scroll on.
5. Find yourself again, who are you? Who do you want to be? What do you want to be in this world? It’s your new identity, you’re starting over. Going back to step one, your positives are back, what are you doing next? Baby steps. Rome wasn’t built in a day.

From here on out after following these steps, you’ll be able to breathe again. Learning to be able to balance everything around you is the perfect solution. What you need to be happy is a good balance: work, hobbies and socials. Do not do what I did and work myself to the bone to the point I was so unhappy. Be like the new me. Create a new chapter and a new life today.